The reason for breakdown of marriages.

The foundation of every strong, successful marriage boils down to two significant factors: Wives submitting to their own husbands and husbands loving their wives. Submission is interpreted by men as respect. A wife’s role is to be a helper to her husband in every capacity.A husband’s office in a marriage is to love his wife unconditionally, lead with vision, provide and to protect his wife. Getting married and staying married requires this wisdom. In the absence of this, the institution of marriage will be full of struggles for the two persons within it.

Husbands loving their wives is not dependent on their wives submitting to them and wives submitting to their partners is not dependent on their partners loving them. The God who instituted marriage does not call us to do what is easy but do the needful. Submission is not an automatic response for women neither is love a natural response for a man. This command is necessitated because in our daily marriage lives, more than likely, our decisions and actions will not not always be right even when we have good intentions. However, we as wives must still be submissive to the authority of our husbands whether they are making the right decisions or not. That’s what it is. A man’s love for his wife would be tested a lot through all the emotional phases a woman goes through which might not make her appear loveable but that is when her husbands love is needed the most.

Sometimes respect is difficult when a husband continually makes wrong decisions that have dire consequences for the family. Multiple mistakes on the part of a husband invokes fear, brings about mistrust of judgement on the part of wives who might become disrespectful to the authority of a husband’s leadership. Some wives are then tempted to go out of their lane to defy the authority of her husband. This act of rebellion by wives even to save a family is interpreted as disrespect.

In all honesty, even though a husband’s respect is increased when he provides, protects and loves his wife to the core, the absence of these does not guarantee wives the rights to disrespect their wives. An unloved wife does not have the capacity to present herself in the right mindframe in all holiness towards her husband.