Have you ever looked at your spouse and wondered if you married right? I am sure most of us have been there. Let’s break it down. A whole marriage cannot be deemed wrong just because of one or two bad moments. It begins to be a growing concern when this thought becomes are consistent and permanent. Sometimes, you can not pinpoint what the actual problem is but there is this uncomfortable feeling in your heart knows when something is off even when your mind keeps making excuses.

Among the signs that can guide you in knowing whether the choice you made was a wrong one or not are as follows:

1. You feel completely drained of energy around your spouse: Being around your spouse makes you feel very tired and heavy. It feels as though you are emotionally drained of energy by their physical presence. This feeling can be mutual for your partner as well. Every successful relationship involves giving and receiving energy from each other. However, this particular feeling comes across as though you have to give off a lot of energy to be around them and its like you receive little or no energy back, leaving you completely drained.

2. You stopped growing: Growing as a process should not cease as long as you are still here on this planet. Growing spirItually, mentally, financially, socially, economically, intellectually does not have to stop because you are married however sometimes the mental load of this relationship leaves you no room to live your life to the fullest. It can be equal to losing yourself entirely. Your whole identity becomes the marriage and you basically have little or no motivation to pursue your dreams as an individual. Sometimes it takes people who knew your potential wender what happened to you.

3. You feel stuck: That feeling of not being happy and not growing can leave you feeling stuck. You know that saying ” whatever is not growing, is dying” , this is the phase before the dying phase begins. Fortunately, at this stage there is still some hope that the situation can be turned around if something is done. Some couples consider the level of sacrifice , time and resources that have been invested in this relationship which makes leaving harder. It becomes more complicated when there are kids involved.

4. You are always on edge: Instead of feeling calm and safe, you feel a constant sense of anxiety. Your matrimonial home should feel like a sanctuary not a source of stress unfortunately this is what going home to someone you have lost connection with, not being able to relax around them, being yourself feels like a crime, and you constantly overlooking your shoulders to not offend them.

Among the reasons why people continue to stay in such marriages broadly lies in the feeling of not wanting to be alone. Is being miserable around the person you have to be all the time worth the mental torture you have to endure to be called married. If for any reason, you find yourself resonating with this post, it might be time to take a close look at your marriage, have a battle between your mind and your soul, speak to your partner, seek counselling and take a firm decision.